Sadly, Pam  lost her battle with Lewy Body Dementia and is no longer with us.   But I have decided to leave this post as it was written.

Our first date was watching Mod Squad on TV in her apartment and then off to Salisbury Beach to see Mac's Mob.  She was from a very small town about an hour from Boston.  I grew up in a large coastal town about an hour and a half from New York City.  We were both a little bit hippie and a little bit settled down.  Less than a year after the first date, we were married.  In June of 2022 we celebrated our 50th anniversary.

Except for an 18-month excursion to Dallas, we made our home in southern New Hampshire for more than 25 years.  We raised three wonderful daughters that are just so different from each other.  And there are now five fabulous grandsons.  She worked in retail, while I put my engineering degree to work in the computer industry.  Like many other middle-class families, we struggled from paycheck to paycheck at times.  But a good work ethic eventually paid off and we kept our heads above water.  All three daughters went to college.  But when they graduated and moved back home, we decided that it was time for us to move away. 😄

Sometimes karma shines a favorable light upon you.  At the company Christmas party in 1998, the CEO gave me some advice which turned out to be prophetic.  He advised me to cash in some of my stock options every year because "you never know what is going to happen".  Sure enough, the company was bought out and I eventually lost my job.  Fortunately, we used the options to buy an old family farm in southern Maine just six months beforehand.  This led to a second career as the network admin for the local school district and an elected Town official. 

 In 2019, we purchased a used motor home and made some wonderful trips to Prince Edward Island in Canada and Boothbay Harbor in Maine.  By the next year, we had decided to sell almost everything we owned, including our tree farm, and travel this great country for two years.  Then COVID hit.  So we were winter snowbirds in Silver Springs, FL, hoping that all the restrictions would be gone and we could travel.  But controlling life's journey is just a mirage.  Pam began to show signs of cognitive impairment and was diagnosed with dementia in late 2021.  Long range travel is now out of the realm according to her doctors.  We have now embarked on a new journey.  We can't change the end point, but we certainly can influence how we get there. 

About Me .... From the age of seven, I knew that I wanted to be an engineer... like my dad.  While I got a degree in aeronautical engineering, I loved the two programming courses I took in my senior year.  I spent thirty years as an engineer and manager for a number of computer and software companies.  After "retiring" (laid off) in 2001, I found that I could not just sit around.  So I spent another fifteen years working for the local school system, mostly as their network administrator.

Picture 003_edited.jpg About Pam....Pam grew up in a small, rural town in Massachusetts, just outside of Nashua, New Hampshire.  While her dream of being a flight attendant was never realized, she put her people skills to good use in retail sales.  She managed a children's shoe store for a few years and was well known for remembering each child's name and birthday.  She took those skills and helped JC Penney open a brand new store in Salem, New Hampshire.  She finished her 18 years with Penney at the Portland, Maine store selling custom window coverings.

In our spare time... we lived on a 100-acre tree farm, raising Christmas trees and timber.  We had horses for trail riding, and a wonderful 120 pound Lab-Newfie mix that was a rescue.  I was a 'car guy', attending about a dozen car shows a year with my Dodge Challenger Hemi, with a Red Hemi vanity plate.  And if that weren't enough I was an elected Town Selectman for nine years.  And most of all we enjoyed hosting our daughters and grandsons on the farm for extended stays and holidays.  Now we spend most of our time in our condo in Litchfield, NH.  Our daughters and grandsons all live nearby.  There is much to be thankful for.